6 a.m. Conversations

Let me tell you something nobody preaches about: staying in love when you don’t like each other that much. Yeah, I said it. You can love somebody and still not like them in the moment.

See, disagreements come standard with every relationship. Folks act shocked when they argue like it’s some kind of spiritual failure. No, that’s called being human. You’re gonna bump heads especially when two grown people with opinions, pride, and Wi-Fi try to share a life.

I remember one argument clear as day. I can’t even remember what started it, probably something small, like who left the light on or who said they’d take the trash out yesterday. Next thing I know, we’re both silent, not the peaceful kind, the “I’m saying nothing before I say something I regret” kind. You ever had that silence? That “Lord, hold my tongue before my mouth ruins my blessing” silence? Yeah, that one.

Here’s what I’ve learned though: love doesn’t disappear just because you’re frustrated. But pride will surely try to make you act like it has. Sometimes the real test isn’t who’s right, it’s who’s willing to protect the peace first.

And look, I’m not saying be a doormat. But every argument doesn’t need a winner. Some days you just need a timeout and a prayer. I used to think staying meant pretending everything was fine. Now I know staying means working through the mess even when it’s uncomfortable. It means learning how to disagree without destroying the foundation.

Funny thing is, God doesn’t waste even those moments. That friction? It refines you. It shows you where your ego still lives rent-free. You find out real quick whether you’re trying to build love or just trying to win an argument.

See, people want relationships that feel good all the time but that’s not love, that’s delusion. Love is when you can stand toe-to-toe, disagree, roll your eyes, maybe even sleep on opposite sides of the bed and still show up the next morning with a softer heart and a stronger commitment.

I’ve realized that “staying” isn’t weak…it’s wise. It means you value growth over being right. It means you understand that one disagreement doesn’t cancel the covenant. Some folks break up over things that could’ve been solved with a deep breath, a little humility, and maybe a nap.

So here’s a thought: are you fighting to be heard, or fighting to be healed? Because one brings distance and the other brings understanding.

Loving By HIS Word–“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” (Ephesians 4:2)
Love doesn’t run when it’s hard, it roots itself deeper.

6 a.m. Quote—“Every argument is a chance to prove that love’s bigger than your pride.”

Marlon Dean–6 a.m. Conversations “Where love meets faith, one morning at time”