6 a.m. Conversations

Now let’s talk about the part of relationships nobody brags about…The Quiet Wars.

You know, those nights when you both go to bed mad, laying back-to-back like two statues auditioning for a mattress commercial. Ain’t no “good night, baby,” just the loud hum of pride between you and the sound of someone fake snoring out of spite.

Yeah, that one.

See, when you’re young, you think communication is all pillow talk. Deep conversations, soft laughs, saying “we got this” after every argument. But when real life shows up, communication turns into who left the lights on, who didn’t take the chicken out, or why you always “say it like that.”

Let’s be real, sometimes it’s not even the issue that’s the problem. It’s the tone, the timing, or that look they give you that says, “You done yet?” And next thing you know, y’all not talking for two days…over something you don’t even remember starting.

But here’s the thing, the silent treatment might feel powerful, but it’s really poison. It’s emotional distance dressed up as control. You think you’re teaching them a lesson, but really, you’re teaching them to live without your voice. And that’s dangerous.

Because once communication dies, connection follows.

See, love was never meant to be a guessing game. We’re supposed to talk through the mess, not pack it away. Pillow talk is where honesty meets humility. Where you both lay down your pride long enough to listen.

Now, I’m not saying it’s easy. There have been nights I stared at the ceiling saying, “Lord, I know You said be slow to anger but this woman is testing ALL the limits of grace.” But then I remember if God went quiet every time I messed up, I wouldn’t have heard from Him in years.

Relationships thrive on what you say, but they survive on what you’re willing to hear. It’s not just about getting your point across, it’s about understanding the heart behind theirs.

You can’t fix what you won’t face. And you can’t heal what you refuse to talk about. Sometimes, the apology ain’t even about being wrong. It’s about protecting peace.

And that peace? It’s worth more than being right.

So, stop letting pride keep y’all in separate corners of the same bed. Roll over, swallow that ego, and start the conversation even if it starts with, “You still mad?”

Because sometimes the softest “I love you” is hidden behind the hardest “I’m sorry.”

Now think about this; when silence shows up in your relationship, are you protecting your peace or punishing your partner?

Loving by HIS Word–“Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Ephesians 4:26

God never said you wouldn’t disagree. He just said don’t stay disconnected.
Love isn’t about avoiding conflict; it’s about learning how to fight fair and forgive fast. When you choose communication over comfort, you honor God and your covenant.  

6 a.m. Quote–“Pride builds walls. Humility builds bridges. You can’t kiss across a wall.”

Marlon Dean–6 a.m. Conversations “Where love meets faith, one morning at a time”