6 a.m. Conversations

You ever notice how, in the beginning, love’s soft? 

Everything’s gentle. Every word is wrapped in care. You say “good morning” like it’s poetry, you touch their hand just because and even arguments sound like romantic comedy dialogue.

But give it a few years, a few bills, a few 6 a.m. alarms and the tone changes.
Now it’s “good morning” through gritted teeth, “don’t forget the trash,” and “why you breathing like that?”

That’s what life does, it tries to steal the softness from love.

And if you’re not careful, you’ll wake up one day next to the same person but not the same energy. Not because the love died but because you stopped protecting the tenderness that kept it alive.

See, when relationships are new, everything drips like morning dew…fresh, light, easy to grow in. But morning dew doesn’t last all day. If you don’t appreciate it early, the sun burns it off. Same thing with love. If you don’t protect it, busyness, pride, and routine will dry it out.

Softness takes work and it’s not weakness. It’s strength under control. It’s knowing when to lower your tone instead of raise your voice. It’s choosing a gentle response when you could hit back harder. It’s remembering that your partner isn’t your opponent, they’re your teammate.

I had to learn that.

I used to think being strong meant keeping my guard up. I didn’t realize how much power there is in softness.

I was told once, “I don’t need you to fix everything, I just need you to be there for me sometimes, while I fix it.”

That one line changed my approach. Sometimes, protecting love means saying less and listening more.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about fake romance or walking on eggshells. I’m talking about intentional gentleness. You can be firm without being cold. You can be passionate without being harsh. You can disagree without being disrespectful.

Because love without softness turns into survival. Two people managing each other instead of cherishing each other.

And here’s the funny part, when you’re soft with each other, you actually stay stronger together.

That small touch on the shoulder, that quiet “I’m proud of you,” that unexpected hug in the kitchen, that’s how you refill what life keeps draining.

Protect your dew, man. Don’t let the day burn off what you two built in the morning.

Here is a quick question, have you been protecting the softness in your love or letting life’s heat dry it out?

Loving in HIS Word–“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

Gentleness is not silence, it’s strength led by love. God’s kind of love stays tender even when tested. It’s the softness that heals what pride tries to harden.

6 a.m. Quote–“Softness doesn’t mean weak, it means wise enough to protect what’s gentle.”

Marlon Dean–6 a.m. Conversations “Where love meets faith, one day at a time”