6 a.m. Conversations

Here’s the thing about love: it’ll teach you the same lesson more than once until you finally get it.

You ever look back and realize y’all been arguing about the same thing for three years, just with new vocabulary? Yeah, me too. That’s love’s funny way of saying, “You still don’t listen.”

See, growth in relationships is tricky. It don’t always happen at the same pace. Sometimes one of you’s reading self-help books and journaling about inner peace while the other one’s just trying to finish their sandwich in peace.
Balance, my friend. Balance.

Here’s what I’ve learned: growth in love is like planting new roots. You don’t tear out the whole tree, you just give it better soil. You build from what you’ve already survived.

But that takes maturity, because sometimes the person you love will start growing in a direction you didn’t plan for. They’ll get new interests, new dreams, maybe even a new attitude. And your first instinct might be to say, “You changed.”

And you’re right, they did. But so did you.
The question isn’t who changed, it’s did we make room for each other’s growth?

See, couples that last don’t grow apart, they learn how to bend toward each other. Like two trees side by side, both reaching for the sun but still connected at the roots.

I remember one season when I started prioritizing myself more. Working out, reading, praying in my quiet time. I was good but she started feeling left out. I looked at her one day and said, “You can come along for the ride or you can complain from the couch.”

Sometimes a lil nudge will make them get up. 
That’s when you learn that sometimes, loving someone means catching up, not competing.

Growth can feel uncomfortable because it exposes the areas you’ve ignored. But if you treat it like a threat, you’ll end up fighting the very thing that’s supposed to strengthen you.

Real talk? If one person is growing and the other one’s standing still, the distance between you gets real noticeable. But when you decide to grow together, even at different speeds, you build something that can weather anything.

So celebrate the new roots. Don’t mourn the old versions of each other. Honor them but keep moving. The best parts of love are still being written.

Here’s a question, when the person you love starts evolving, do you get defensive or do you dig new roots alongside them?

Loving by HIS Word–“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor.” Ecclesiastes 4:9

God never meant for love to be a competition, it’s a collaboration. When you grow together in faith, patience, and grace, your roots intertwine so deeply that storms can’t shake what He planted.

6 a.m. Quote–“Don’t fight your partner’s growth, plant yours beside it.”

Marlon Dean–6 a.m. Conversations “Where love meets faith, one morning at a time”