6 a.m. Conversations

Let me tell you something: every couple on earth has competed in what I like to call The “We Don’t Get Enough Time Together” Olympics.

It’s that unspoken competition where both of y’all are exhausted, stretched thin, and still somehow arguing over who’s more busy, more tired, or more overwhelmed. Like y’all trying to qualify for Team USA: Marriage Edition.

You know the scene…It’s 9:47 p.m., the house is finally quiet and one of you sighs and says, “We need to spend more time together.”

The other person nods, then both of y’all fall asleep before finishing the conversation.

Life be lifin’. And it does not apologize for it.

Kids got needs. Jobs got demands. Bills got hands.

And the only “me time” you get is the two minutes in the bathroom before someone knocks like the house is on fire.

But here’s the wild part, couples still act like there’s a gold medal for who’s “more tired.”

You ever had that moment?
You: “Man, I’m exhausted.”
Them: “You’re exhausted? Oh, okay… tell me more.”

At that point you’re not even arguing, just comparing trauma.

And don’t get me started on date night.
You plan it.
You hype it.
You put on clothes that don’t have elastic waistbands.
Then you end up at Target buying paper towels and snacks like it’s Paris in the spring.

By the time you get home, romance has left the building.
You sit on the couch, look into each other’s eyes and both fall asleep before the Netflix sound ends.

But here’s the truth: time together doesn’t just show up, you have to defend it.
Life will steal it if you don’t protect it on purpose.

And let me say this, intentionality is romantic.
Not the big gestures, but the small moments you fight to keep:

• Sitting close even when you’re tired
• Laughing at something that wasn’t even funny
• Morning hugs
• Taking a walk
• Turning your phones off for 10 minutes
• Just being present

Those minutes matter. Those minutes build connection.

I remember a time me and a homie were going through the same “never enough time” struggle, and he told me,
“Bro, I tried to plan a romantic night and my kids tagged along like they had a Groupon.”
We laughed for 10 minutes straight, because it was TOO relatable.

But then he said something real: “We can’t wait for the perfect moment. We gotta make the moments we get count.”

That stuck with me.

So yeah, life’s chaotic. Schedules are tight. You’re tired. They’re tired.

But love still grows when you protect the minutes that matter.

Not the big ones, the little ones. The quiet ones. The “we’re here together, even in the madness” ones.

That’s what keeps the connection alive.

Quick question, are you waiting for the perfect time together or protecting the imperfect moments that already exist?

Loving by HIS Word–“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” Psalm 90:12

God reminds us that time is sacred. When we honor it with each other, we honor Him.

6 a.m. Quote–“Love doesn’t need more hours, it needs more intention.”

Marlon Dean–6 a.m. Conversations “Where love meets faith, one morning at a time”